How would you define beauty?
I got different answers from the girls but the main one was, it’s your personality that makes you beautiful. It’s who you are inside. It’s your character. And I’d have to agree!
For me it can be hard to except how God has created me. You walk down the isle at the store and you’re constantly bombarded with pictures and messages of what our culture calls ‘beautiful’ or ‘perfect’. We see other girls and we go, ‘If only I had a body like that!’ or ‘If only I had that color hair.’ We compare ourselves to others all the time. We let our worth come from what others think of us. And then we fall into the trap of constantly worrying about our outward appearance.
It’s no fun living for other people’s approval. It will not fulfill you. I’m guilty of wanting others to approve of me. Ask my sisters how long I stand staring at my closet on a Sunday morning. Or how many times I redo my hair, because I get so caught up in my outward appearance. Or if you could listen in on my conversations with friends you’d probably hear us comparing ourselves to other women or complaining about how we don’t like our bodies.
Trust me it’s not easy to stop longing for other’s approval.
In Ezekiel 16 it talks about God’s love for Jerusalem. So God is telling Ezekiel all this in a story. He finds a baby that was cast away, not even cleaned up after birth, He takes the baby and washes it. Then the story continues and He sees her later when she’s older and He enters into a covenant with her and she becomes His. Then He washes away all her dirt and starts to cloth her in silk and fine linen. Then He starts decking her out in all sorts of jewelry. But my favorite part is when God stops and says, “And though wast exceeding beautiful!”
This really stood out to me when I was reading it. It made me stop and remember that the God of the universe calls me beautiful!
“You are EXCEEDING BEAUTIFUL my darling.” – God
Picture this. God is in the process of creating us and it looks like He’s making sugar cookies. He finds the cookie-cutter shape He wants and then proceeds to make EVERY single one the same shape. Does that sound very creative? No.
That’s not how God creates. He has created every single woman to be different on purpose! Different heights, shapes, personalities and the list goes on.
God designed each of us unique. He looks at how He formed our bodies, each shape, each color, and He does not go, “OH NO! I made her legs too long! I made her hair brown and it should have been red.”
No. No. That’s not at all how our God looks at us. He looks at you just like you are and says, “You are beautiful!”
God made you the way you are. He wanted you to be like that. Stop trying to wish away the body He gave you! Embrace how God made you. Be content.
Did you ever stop and think when we’re discontent with how God has made us we are telling Him He didn’t know what He was doing when He formed us in the womb and He did a bad job.
We’re like, “God you really made a big mistake when you gave me brown hair. I mean come on.”
Is this honoring?
I am so guilty of forgetting this and being discontent. I forget that I am clay in His hands and He shaped me. He is the master Creator.
Awhile back my brother took me to a pottery place where you paint on mugs and then they cook them so your design stays. I painted mine yellow and grey. We were creating. The mug was not painting itself.
It would have been very, very strange if I was painting away and the mug started yelling at me!
“You are doing a horrible job! I should have been green.”
That’s basically what we are doing when we hate how God made our bodies.
I love this quote:
“God designed us, therefore He defines us.” – Girl Defined
God created us so He gets to say who we are. We don’t need to live up to the world’s standards of beauty. We’re always chasing the beauty we think we see on the magazine covers, when God has already proclaimed us beautiful.
Our identity, who we really are needs to be in Christ alone. If we try to live up to are culture’s standards of beauty we will never achieve that goal.
For me it’s very hard sometimes. But God is helping me.
Every single morning the battle begins.
Who am I going to let define who I am?
God or the world?
It’s a constant struggle, trust me. I catch myself looking in the mirror and saying, “Will people think this looks cute?” “Will they think this looks frumpy?” “Am I too wide?”
One verse that has helped me is:
1 Peter 3:3-4
3 Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. 4 Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.
This is up in my bathroom by the mirror so every time I can see it and be reminded that true beauty comes from within. It’s about your character. I’m learning slowly to let go and really believe what God has said.
Remember your beauty comes from inside. It’s your character that really matters. Not the number on the scale. Not your outward looks.
God has called you beautiful!
There’s a whole story that I hope to get up soon from my sister-in-law. But I don’t have time to get it up right now.
Oh this video is sooo amazing! Y’all should watch it!